When you walk into your home, what do you feel? Anxiety, chaos, stress–or do you feel comfort, relaxation, protection, and peace?
Many years ago, I had a problem with wanting to have “the perfect home”. It was such a problem that I began to stress my entire family out. They were staying away, not wanting to be together, or spend time with one another.
One day, I cried out to God and asked Him–Lord, what is wrong? Why doesn’t anyone want to be here? Then He gently showed me how callous and uncaring I had been with my family. I raised my voice a lot, I expected perfection when others would help me clean (if it wasn’t done my way it was done wrong), I fussed at everyone for every. little. thing.
I apologized to God so many times during the course of that week. I begged for Him to help me find solace and peace and to create that within in the walls of my home. He did that and it has helped me immensely in creating a warm and inviting atmosphere within my family. Now instead of feeling like a place of chaos, my family views our home as a place of protection, away from the rest of the world.
If you need help in this area, here are a few tips that you can do that will help calm you and bring more peaceful surroundings in your home.
- Spend time with God daily. Whether it is in the morning, in the evening, or whenever that time is for you–spend it with God! It does not have to be 2 hours, 20 minutes, or even 10 minutes. If you have 5 spare minutes, spend it with God.
- Don’t stress over housework not getting done! This is where I struggle and must take it to the Lord daily. My “Martha mentality” takes over my “Mary heart” quite frequently and I have to put that ol’ gal in her place. Housework is not a priority over your family. It needs to be done–yes, but don’t stress out and make everybody else stressed in the process.
- Learn to speak to your family in a calm, soothing voice. If you find yourself always raising your tone when you speak to others, find a way to change that. I still catch myself doing this at times. When I see the look on my kids faces, I know that I have hurt their feelings with my words and my tone. Learn to curb that.
- Allow others to help you and then don’t criticize what they do to help. This used to be the main thing I did to stress me and everyone around me out. If someone does something nice for you, the only thing that should come out of your mouth are the words, “thank you”. Don’t say, Well thanks, but. . .–Leave that out! Just say thank you.
These are just a few ways you can make your home less stressful. Feel free to email me if you have any questions!